Uzibuza ukuthi wenza into enhle yini, uma kuziwa emakhasini akho okuya emshadweni ? U-Elise Mac Adam ungumbhali we- Something New: I-Wedding Etiquette ye-Rule Breakers, Abaholi Bamasiko, Nabo Bonke Abaphakathi Kokuphakathi . Kuyinto ethatha isimanje ukuziphatha okuhle emshadweni okungasiza abashade nabayeni ukulungiselela usuku olukhulu.
"Miss Wedding Manners" umiswe ukunikeza ulwazi mayelana nendlela yokusingatha ezinye eziyinkimbinkimbi izimo wedding emshadweni ngomusa.
Ngingabamema abantu kudoti lami lomshado uma ngingabamemeli emshadweni wami oya kuyo?
Akufanele umeme umuntu noma ubani ku-shower yakho engeke abe khona ohlwini lwabantu bomshado wakho. (Okungafani nale nqubomgomo kuqondile kakhulu, isibonelo, amaholide omsebenzi ehhovisi lapho ama-co-workers engeke amenywe khona emshadweni.) Isizathu salokhu ukuthi kusukela emanzini adinga ukuthi izivakashi zilethe izipho, kubonakala sengathi zithathwa umeme abantu ebandleni elincane kodwa bangabenzeli ukusika umcimbi oyinhloko. Ungaba nezimo ezincane kakhulu uma une-post-elopement noma i-post-wedding reception reception emuva ekhaya lapho umeme khona zonke lezi zivakashi zokugeza, kodwa kufanele wazi ukuthi uzoba nokugubha kwasekhaya esikhathini esedlule ngaphambi uthumela izimemo zokugeza.
Ngifuna umshado wami ube yindaba enkulu yabantu kuphela. Ngingaqiniseka kanjani ukuthi abantu abafaki izingane zabo?
Impendulo emfushane yilezi: musa ukumema izingane.
Ungabeki amagama abo esimemo noma ubhale "nomndeni" emvilophini. Kumele futhi ulungiselele izivakashi ezizobe zinezingane zokuthumela izizisolo zabo. Kuvame ukulukhuni ukuba abantu bahambe ngaphandle kwezingane zabo, noma bathekele ukunakekelwa kwengane okungatholakali (uma bethatha abantwana ohambweni nabo kodwa bahlele ukuwashiya ehotela lomshado nokwamukelwa).
Qonda ukuthi njengoba nje wanquma ukuthi awufuni ukuba nezingane emshadweni wakho, kungase kudingeke baphethe ngokuthi ngeke bakwazi ukuya khona, futhi akufanele kube khona imizwa enzima ngalunye uhlangothi.
Singakwazi yini ukubhalisa izipho uma sinomshado oya khona?
Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ukhuluma noma unomshado ozofika, ungabhalisa ngezipho njalo. Okungafanele ukwenze noma ngabe yikuphi izipho zokufuna, okusho ukuthi akufanele uprinte ulwazi lwakho lokubhalisa kumememo yakho yomshado. Endabeni yokwehliswa kwabantu, abantu bangase bangabi nomuzwa wokuthi bathambekele ekunikezeni izipho zomshado, ngakho-ke ngeke ukwazi ukuzethemba ukuzithola ngendlela ongayenza uma unomshado ogcwele.
Ubani okhokhela izenzakalo ezungeze umshado wangempela kanye nokwamukela lapho uya khona emishadweni?
Izivakashi akufanele neze zikhokhele kunoma yimuphi umcimbi ohleliwe ozungezile emshadweni. Ngakho-ke, ngenkathi bephethe izindleko zabo zokuhamba nezokuhlala, akufanele baphokhele ukudla kwabo emshadweni noma lapho bedlala khona, uma kukhona. Noma yimuphi umcimbi omenyiwe kufanele unakekelwe wona. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma izivakashi zinikezwa uhlu lwemisebenzi yendawo abangayithola phakathi kwezehlakalo ezihleliwe, zithatha lezo zindleko ngokwazo.
Isiqondiso esiyisisekelo kufanele sibe: uma bemenywa ukwenza okuthile, akufanele kubakhokhele.
Nginomshado ozofika futhi ngizokwamukela eduze kwamasonto ambalwa ngemva kwalokho. Ngimema wonke umuntu kuzo zombili izenzakalo?
Isihluthulelo sokugcina ekulahlekelweni kwengqondo yakho ukumema abantu kuphela kumcimbi ofuna ukuba khona kuwo. Hlangana izimemo ezihlukene zomshado ozofika kanye nokwamukelwa futhi ufike ngezinhlu ezihambelanayo zezivakashi kuzo zombili izindaba. Ngisho noma kunezinqwaba eziningi kulawo hlu, kudingeka uzigcine zihlukile. Lokhu kuzogcina konke kucacile futhi kuhlelwe kuwe futhi kuzosiza ukugcina izindleko phansi ngoba akukho nhlobo ukuthi uzovota ngokukhululeka okukhulu ukuphuma emshadweni wakho lapho uvakashela abantu abaningi nje kuphela ongakuthola khona ekuqaleni indawo.
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