Buza i-NYC Dating Experts
U-Tamsen Fadal noThithu , ozithandayo oshayisana nabo eNew York City nabalingani bobuhlobo, phendula imibuzo yakho mayelana nokuthi ungathola kanjani umuntu okhethekile eNew York City, uthanda amadoda angatholakali, abuyele echibini lokuthandana le-NYC ngemuva kwe-hiatus, nokuziphatha kosuku olubi.
Ngingayitholaphi Izingane Ezinhle eNew York?
U-Guy ongashadile eSoho ubhala: Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engu-24 ubudala oye wahlala eNew York iminyaka engaba ngu-4.
Ngangizama ukuhlangana nentombazane sonke isikhathi, kodwa abashisayo bonke babonakala benamakhanda. Ngokwethembeka, ngidangele kakhulu ukuthi cishe ngizophuma eNew York endaweni eya eCalifornia ngenxa yalolu daba. Iningi lamantombazane engihlangana nabo emabhawulweni alunzima kakhulu. Ngathuthela lapha kusukela eNingizimu ngicabanga ukuthi ngizohlangana ngempela nabesifazane abaningi baseNew York, kodwa ngizizwa ngingenarheni yomuntu. Kumele ngenzeni?
UTamsen noMat bathi: Sicela ungadluli !! E-LA, kungenzeka ukuthi ugijimela emazingeni amaningi angajulile afuna ithuba futhi akukho lutho. Yeka ukuya ezimakethe zenyama kanye nemigoqo. Funa abesifazane ezindaweni ezingahle zenziwe njenge-Whole Foods, noma emgwaqweni noma ngabangani. Ungapheli amandla!
Ukubuyela Emuva e-New York Dating Game
Amahloni e-Chelsea abhala: Kumuntu ongakaze ahlale isikhathi eside, ukuphola kungasabeka kakhulu. Ukuthandana emphakathini wanamuhla uzizwa njengomdlalo wokuncintisana.
Ngikhathazekile kumuntu engangikujwayele, kodwa ngesaba ukuza kuye ngoba angizange ngiminyaka (ngisuka ebuhlotsheni obude ngonyaka odlule). UMat uthi abesifazane baseNew York benza amaphutha amaningi okuphola futhi ngesaba ukwenza into engalungile. Iyiphi indlela engcono kakhulu yokuqala ukuhamba kancane futhi usondele ukuchoboza kwami?
UTamsen noMathe bathi: Kudingeka ube nomqondo ofanele lapho uzobe usebenza kahle futhi uthathe izindaba zenhliziyo ezandleni zakho ukuze wenze uthando luvele. Ngokufinyelela ezithakazelweni zokuthanda uthando, wenza isitatimende. Okwenza umuntu athakazelise futhi ayingqayizivele ukuziphatha kwakhe, hhayi ngempela ukubukeka kwawo.
Ukuba ovulekile futhi uvikelekile ngokwanele ukuhamba nomuntu ongaziwayo futhi uzama ukwenza ubuhlobo buvele ngaphandle komoya omncane kukubeka eqenjini elikhethile elimangalisayo elingavamile. Ukusabela kokuthandana kwakho okungenzeka ukuthi uyakuthanda kufanele ngempela kungabi nakancane. Cabanga ngalokhu, ukuphendula okungaziwa komuntu ongekho ngokuphelele kungakuthinta kanjani izinga lakho lokuzethemba? Impendulo: ayikwazi.
Futhi, ngokusondela kumuntu ongamazi kubonisa ukuthi ungumuntu onjani ngendlela abasabela ngayo endleleni yakho. Uma evulekile, enomusa futhi evikelekile, mhlawumbe ungumuntu ofanele isikhathi sakho. Uma ivaliwe, engenzi lutho futhi engavikelekile, ke ungacabangi kabili ngokuqhubeka. Ngakho-ke, hamba uye kumuntu omaziyo futhi uphinde uzethule ngokwakho ngokumtshela igama lakho nokuthi uhlangana nani. Ngezansi, hamba khona. Yini okufanele ulahlekelwe ngempela?
NginguMagnet Amadoda Angatholakali?
Kutholakale e-Amsterdam Avenue ubhala: Ngingowesifazane oneminyaka engu-34 ubudala onomsebenzi obonakala eheha noma ekhanga amadoda angathandi ukushada, abe nezingane, noma abe nanoma yiluphi uhlobo lobuhlobo obalulekile.
Izikhathi eziningi, angikutholi lokhu kuze kube yilapho siqhubeka sithandana ngoba ngithola ukuthi umuntu uyathandeka. Ngishintsha kanjani iphethini yami? Angikufa ukushada - ngifuna nje ukuthola "umlingani wami ebugebengu" ukujabulela ukuphila nge.
UTamsen noMat bathi: Indlela engcono kakhulu yokuhlangana nabantu abalungile kufanele iqondiswe kakhulu futhi ihlehliswe ekusesheni kwakho. Ukuthandana kwe-intanethi kuzokunikeza izinqubo zokukhetha ezichazwe ngokufihlakele ekukuvumela ukuba uzikhiphe lezo zimpisi ezizimele futhi ukhethe kusuka kumininingwane yabantu abesilisa abafuna izinto ezifanayo ozifunayo.
Lapho Ethanda iPhone Yakhe Kakhulu
Miss Manners eMidtown ubhala: Nginombuzo kuwe mayelana ne-cell phone etiquette ngosuku. Ngangineminyaka engaboni kahle futhi umfana wayengeke ahluke kusukela ekuqaleni. Amaminithi amahlanu ngosuku, umakhalekhukhwini wakhe uyagcina futhi uyazithethelela futhi athathe ucingo ngaphandle.
Ngilinde imizuzu engu-15-20 bese ngisuka futhi ngishiya. Ucabanga ukuthi nginesihluku kakhulu kumfana? Ngesikhathi ngisuka, ngamtshela ukuthi lokhu ngeke kusebenze futhi wathi wayesefonini nomphathi wakhe. Yini oyithathayo esimweni?
UTamsen noMathe bathi: Sivumelana ngokuphelele nawe. Uma usuphelile, kufanele ube ngu-100% otholakala kulowo muntu etafuleni. Akukho okuvimbela ukuphuthumayo komndeni okufanele kukuphazamise kusukela ngosuku.
Amafoni, ama-Blackberries, nama-iPhones kufanele avaliwe futhi alahlekelwe. Lokhu kuyisandulela sezinto ezingase zigcinwe kuwe uma uzibandakanya nomuntu ofana nalokhu. Uma eyokushaya ucingo ngosuku lokuqala, awufuni ukwazi ukuthi kuzokwenzekani uma eyeka ezama ukukujabulisa.
Funda kabanzi eNew York City ukuphola iseluleko kusuka kuMat and Tamsen noma uvakashele isayithi labo.