Uma ucabanga ngesikhatsi sakho sezinyanga, kunengqondo ukulindela isikhathi esichithwa ekuboneni indawo, ukwabelana ngezenzakalo ezintsha, ukuthatha izithombe eziningi ndawonye, nokuzijabulisa ngokuthanda uthando lapho ungenawo isikhathi nendawo yokuba yedwa ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kodwa-ke, kukhona into eyodwa engase ibe khona: Ngaphandle kokuba umakoti wesilisa ocansini esithandana naye abuyele esikhathini noma aqaphele kakhulu, angakhulelwa.
Akuwona wonke umbhangqwana ofuna noma ohlose ukuqala umndeni ekuqaleni komshado wabo. Ukuze ugweme ukukhulelwa ngesikhathi sakho sokuzalwa (noma nganoma yisiphi esinye isikhathi), kubalulekile ukuthi usebenzise njalo ukulawula ukubeletha.
Kwabanye abasanda kushada ngesikhathi sokuzalwa kwabo, inengozi enkulu ilahlekelwa ngaphandle kokubona konke okukhangayo ngaphandle kwekamelo lokulala. Kwabanye, ukukhulelwa okungafunwa kuyingozi okuyinto abangathanda ukungayithathi.
Indlela Yokugwema Ukuthola Ukukhulelwa
Ukulawulwa kokubeletha kungasetshenziswa amadoda noma abesifazane futhi indlela ngayinye inezinzuzo nezinsalela. Kunezinhlobo ezinhlanu zokulawulwa kokuzalwa ezitholakalayo: ezemvelo, phezu kwekhasenda, imithi, okuphakade, nokuphuthumayo.
Xoxa nomlingani wakho ngaphambi komshado wakho uhlobo lokulawulwa kokuzalwa ofuna ukusebenzisa ukugwema ukukhulelwa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi iyiphi indlela noma inhlanganisela yezindlela ozikhethayo, kumele usebenzise ukulawula kokuzalwa njalo lapho ulala ukugwema ukukhulelwa. (Futhi uma ubuza, yebo, ungathenga amakhondomu online.)
Uma Kuyisimo Esiphuthumayo
Ngesikhathi sakho sokuzalwa, kuhlale kunethuba lokuhluleka kokulawula ukubeletha njengokuthi ikhondomu ishiya noma iphula, ikhohliwe noma iphule amaphilisi okulawula ukuzalwa noma isimo esifanayo esivumela ukuba isidoda sithole iqanda elingenakulinganiswa. Ngenhlanhla, ukukhulelwa kwezimo eziphuthumayo (eyaziwa nangokuthi "i-pillow ekuseni" ngemva kwalokho) ingasetshenziswa ukugwema ukukhulelwa.
Kunezinhlobo eziningi zemithi yokwelapha okuphuthumayo okuphuthumayo okutholakala ngaphezulu kwefayili etholakalayo kwifomu yephilisi. Okuyaziwa kakhulu futhi okutholakala kakhulu kuyathengiswa ngaphansi kwegama leBrama B.
Qaphela ukuthi ukukhulelwa okuphuthumayo akufanele kusetshenziswe njengokulawulwa kokuzalwa okuvamile njengoba amaphilisi angaba nemiphumela emibi futhi akekho ofuna ukuchitha isikhathi esisele somzwelo wezinyosi ngaphansi kwesimo sezulu. Futhi, qaphela ukuthi kuncike lapho uhamba khona, imikhiqizo efana ne-Plan B ingase ingatholakali kalula - ngakho-ke ukuhlelwa kokuhamba ngaphambi kokuhamba kuzokuhamba isikhathi eside ekusizeni ukuthi unwebe lolo hlobo lwama-honeymoon uze ulungele ukuqala umndeni.
Thenga uhlelo lwe-B oluphuthumayo lokukhulelwa kwe-inthanethi futhi nje ukuze ulondoloze ngokuphephile, lungene emithwalweni yakho yokuthwala .
Lapho Kufanele Ngokuqinisekile Ugweme Ukukhulelwa Ngokwezifiso Zakho
Kuze kube khona ukugoma noma ukwelashwa kwegciwane lesandulela ngculaza , imibhangqwana ehlala emazweni athintekile kumele iqaphele ngokusebenzisa ukulawula ukubeletha. Amantombazane abelethwe ngabesifazane abakhulelwe abenwe igciwane lesandulela ngculazi banomthelela wokuba nezinkinga zokuzalwa ezinzima. Ngisho nangemva kokuba ubuyele ekhaya, qhubeka usebenzisa ukulawula ukubeletha okungenani izinyanga eziyisithupha uma ubanjwe uzinyane obuncane obungakwazi ukuguqula intshiseko yenkwenkwezi kuze kube phakade.